Hello internet!

It's that time of the year again. Yes Uni has started and I too have crawled out like so many others from our proverbial caves and bumped heads at campus. Meeting new faces can be anything you want it to be but most of us expect it to be an awesome experience. So much anticipation goes towards that one day of meet and greet and all you can do is hope your first impression was ok. The reality is usually more like did they even notice me (questionmark).

Meeting new people for some of us though is a daily thing. You either get along or you don't and then you move along. Nothing more honest about recognising a person, greeting them and mutually understanding that this was it let's move along - so long. Next.

If you consider how many of there are of us living in one area of influence (which technology does seem to expand quite a bit), we could just acknowledge that you get a better worth for the effort if you just cut your losses and move along. What am I talking about? Have you ever made a very bad first impression on a person you already liked? Tried to correct that first impression? In most cases I must say it would be a better cause left unfought. In the 21st century people aren't as unique and irreplaceable as before. But this is a good thing.

I have this friend who is social, funny, and everyone who meets him like him. But he has a major problem. To cut to the chase he's scared shitless of meeting new people he would/could later on form relationships with. This person I'll call him Mike.

So yes Mike has no problem socialising with his own friends or their spouses and actually he does so frequently. But then again if there is an event in which there is a possibility of meeting girls he would go on and get the jitters and be nervous about it before hand. Well then again who sometimes doesn't? Maybe it's the anticipation and or fear of something going wrong. Maybe he's a perfectionist without the proper skillset. Either way I'll just go ahead and loosely combine a few true notions: failure and failure again makes perfect. ;) you can't expect not to crash and burn unless you have one of the following:

1 First hand knowledge of what is needed to crash and burn
2 an innate drlovegood gene that just tells you what is right. (yes everyone thinks they have one and the mind tends to think it swells up when drunk)

My values while growing up regarding relationshios and the meaning of them were severely distorted by movies and common aristocratic beliefs that there is a higher meaning to everything. Terms like 'the one' and 'soulmate' paved my thoughts when searching for an answer. I'd still like to believe that these things exist, but like all stories this belief too must end sometime if I don't want to bury my head in the sand like my friend Mike does.

In people, relationships and friendship - the only way to find out what works is face the ones you fear the most since those are the oceans less travelled. Personal growth starts from jumping out of your own comfort zone into the risk zone where new frontiers are met.

Have a good one,
RJ aka BaQu82
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